"This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!" (2 Cor. 5:17 NLT)

"For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. In those days when you pray, I will listen. If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me. I will be found by you,” says the Lord. “I will end your captivity and restore your fortunes. I will gather you out of the nations where I sent you and will bring you home again to your own land.” (Jeremiah 29:11-14 NLT)

Thursday, June 20, 2013

Slow to Anger

Anger is the most violent of human emotions.  When we are angry, we are in very close danger of sinning.  Not controlling our anger and letting anger get the best of us can cause huge problems in our lives and the lives of others.  In our wrath we can lose control of ourselves, say and do hurtful things, and terrible consequences can follow.

Anger is a part of life; just don’t let it carry you into sin.

Scripture Tells Us to be Slow to Anger

“Control your temper, for anger labels you a fool.” (Ecclesiastes 7:9 NLT)

“Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.” (James 1:19 NLT)

 “26 And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.”  Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 for anger gives a foothold to the devil.” (Ephesians 4:26-27 NLT)

Solomon wrote:  “Sensible people control their temper; they earn respect by overlooking wrongs.” (Proverbs 19:11 NLT)

“Better to be patient than powerful; better to have self-control than to conquer a city.” (Proverbs 16:32 NLT)

“31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. 32 Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.” (Ephesians 4:31-32 NLT)

Did Jesus Get Angry?

Yes!  There are two instances in the Bible that I know of in which Jesus got angry in his earthly life.

One was when Jesus cleared the temple of all the people buying and selling there.

Matthew 21:12-13:  “12 Jesus entered the Temple and began to drive out all the people buying and selling animals for sacrifice. He knocked over the tables of the money changers and the chairs of those selling doves. 13 He said to them, “The Scriptures declare, ‘My Temple will be called a house of prayer,’ but you have turned it into a den of thieves!”

The other is when Jesus encountered a man with a deformed hand and His critics planned to accuse him of working on the Sabbath if he were to heal him.  Jesus looked at them angrily and healed the man.

Mark 3:1-6 NLT:  “1 Jesus went into the synagogue again and noticed a man with a deformed hand. 2 Since it was the Sabbath, Jesus’ enemies watched him closely. If he healed the man’s hand, they planned to accuse him of working on the Sabbath.  3 Jesus said to the man with the deformed hand, “Come and stand in front of everyone.” 4 Then he turned to his critics and asked, “Does the law permit good deeds on the Sabbath, or is it a day for doing evil? Is this a day to save life or to destroy it?” But they wouldn't answer him.  5 He looked around at them angrily and was deeply saddened by their hard hearts. Then he said to the man, “Hold out your hand.” So the man held out his hand, and it was restored! 6 At once the Pharisees went away and met with the supporters of Herod to plot how to kill Jesus.”

Jesus’ anger here was unselfish anger.  His anger was a response to things that blocked God’s salvation and kindness from reaching lives.  Jesus was not acting out of a sense of being threatened.  He was angry at the illness, sin and oppression.

The Issue is Not Anger

The real issue is not anger, but how much we allow our anger to control us.  Our issue is self-control.  Being slow to anger is a mark of strength.

What to Do When We Are Angered

The best way to handle angry feelings is to tell God about them.  God knows us better than we know ourselves.  We will ALWAYS find Him to be understanding.  Being in God’s presence calms us.  It also helps us to see things in their proper perspective.  Many times we will discover that the very things we were disturbed or angry about really weren't that important after all.

Some problems are not worth being angry about.  Learn to distinguish serious issues from unimportant ones.  If it isn't serious or important, then forget it, let it go, and go on. 

If the problem is important enough to be justifiably angry, then use your anger constructively to work on the problem.  Blowing up, attacking someone, or holding grudges are wrong actions.  When we see that our anger is starting to get the better of us, we don’t have to react negatively.  We don’t have to despair or recoil.  Repent of it and reject the anger.  The proper way to be angry and not sin is to use your natural energy to work on the problem.  Most anger is resolved through forgiveness.

Think before you speak or act.  Analyze the situation, get all the facts, and consider the consequences of what you might say or do.  Maybe take a walk or get away from the situation for a bit.  Take time to calm down and think.  Be sure you are in control of yourself and you are calm before reacting.

Don’t suppress or bottle up your anger.  Anger that is kept inside hurts us and keeps us hurting.  It can turn to resentment and bitterness.  It can bring on depression as well as many kinds of physical illnesses.  You must address your anger.

Determine what happened that angered you.  The issue isn't who angered you, but what happened to anger you.  Distinguish the act from the person.  Hate the sin, but love the sinner.  Hurting the other person back will not help the matter.  Seek to destroy the bad conduct, but help the person who committed it.

Talk to the person who caused the problem for the purpose of working out a solution.  Speak with genuine concern.  Speak to help, not to hurt.  Be willing to listen to the other person.  Don’t be too quick to rush to judgment.  Jumping to conclusions makes us run the risk of speaking hastily.  Take the time to listen carefully, understand the other person(s)/situation(s) before jumping to conclusions and/or anger.

I've Lashed Out in Anger

If you have said or done something in anger, make amends and ask for forgiveness.  Repent to God and ask His forgiveness.



“Heavenly Father, may we all be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger.  Change our behavior to embrace tenderhearted feelings, kindness, a gentle mind and patience.  Open our eyes to see one another the way You do.  I pray that instead of being angry, we will act in love.  In Jesus’ Name, Amen.”

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